I see many Muslims squirm over the relatively straightforward Qur'an verse (4:34) when talking to Westerners about Islam.
I think that disciplining of women (or lack thereof) is one of the main reasons for the social decay that the UK finds itself in.
So this topic should be of interest to Muslim and non-Muslim alike.
The Question is:
Does Islam permit a man to hit his wife?
Of course, however... but only if she doesn't do what she is told.
The beating must cease if the woman complies with her husband's demands.
Beating is also intended to be the last resort, behind verbal abuse and abandonment.
Muhammad, himself, is recorded as physically disciplining his favourite wife (from her own testimony). It is not known how he treated his less-favoured wives.
According to Sharia, a husband may strike his wife for any one of the following four reasons:
- She does not attempt to make herself beautiful for him (ie. "let's herself go")
- She refuses to meet his sexual demands
- She leaves the house without his permission or a "legitimate reason"
- She neglects her religious duties
Any of these are also sufficient grounds for divorce.
Now, we must look at what is appropriate in terms of disciplining ones’wife. .
As stated, one must avoid the face, what could be the solution? The breasts of a woman are as tender as the testicles of a man, and even a light beating on the breasts, (especially the nipples), can be quite painful and is good for correcting a woman who has been disobedient.
When one does not know how to punish his wife, the clear answer is to follow the example of the Prophet Mohammad (pbuh), as he used this form of discipline on Aisha (his most beloved) on her breasts when she was about nine years of age.
Also when in doubt, I recommend a miswak, as it has always done a good job, electrical cables are also a tried and tested implement of discipline.
If you are interested here are some images of miswaks that are commonly sold.
When following the laws of Islam the maintaining order and discipline in a Muslim home can usually be accomplished without physical discipline, however it is good to understand the obligations of a Muslim husband to correct the bad behaviour of his wife. . the non-Muslims to embrace Islam, and find the harmony in your home life that we Muslims enjoy.
Also, please feel free to leave any useful information or tips, or instruments have you found work in maintain discipline of your wives.
Allah knows best.